A Friend loves at all times.
Yesterday would have been a dear friends 33rd birthday but sadly she’s not here to celebrate this special occasion. You see she became an angel 25 years ago because someone failed to stop and then smashed into the car she was riding in. 7 years old was much to young to die, yet I know in my heart she is in a much better place and one day we will see each other again.
There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of her and I often wish she was her. I find myself wondering where life would have taken her. What kind of job would she have? Would she be married? Have kids? Still be in the area or somewhere else? I can probably guess that she would be involved with volleyball to some degree!! 🙂 But I can’t hold on to what would have been. Instead I hold on to the memories we shared together.
Throughout the years I have journaled about that tragic day and what it’s been like losing a friend. At the age of 7 one really doesn’t understand what was going on. It wouldn’t be until years later that I would know what kind of impact it would have on me. I have discovered that the older I get the more I value and cherish those precious memories I was able to spend with her. Nothing can take those memories away.
Below is something I wrote 2 months ago as a way to continue remembering those special times.
I may not remember exactly what I was doing the day you became an angel 25 years ago, but I do remember my mom telling me and not understanding why. Why did something like this have to happen? Why you?
I remember going to watch my cousins at a swim meet and we left early to go to your visitation.
I remember not wanting to go see your casket, so instead I stayed with your mom and gave her hugs. She comforted me as I looked from a far.
I remember the funeral at Salem and the burial at Winnebago. I remember not really understanding except that my friend was now up in heaven.
I remember that September for your birthday your mom brought her yummy cookies to school. We were going to be in the same class. I remember saving my cookie and crying on the bus ride home because all I really wanted was my friend!!
25 years later I still remember you, Atty Joy!!
I remember the sleepovers, birthday parties and going to the pool……imagine that 🙂
I remember convincing our parents to let you and your sister come over to my house after a church softball game for a sleepover. We had such a good time! I’m sure we giggled well into the wee hours of the morning!! The following week I bet we were at your house doing the same thing!!
I will always remember your smile, your laugh, your beautiful heart and what a great friend you were.
I will ALWAYS remember you, Atty Joy!!